The "boys don't cry" problem of work

If your own relationship with your dad was strained, does that make you a bad manager 30-40 years down the line?

You may be familiar with the 1999 film Boys Don't Cry, which is essentially the Brandon Teena story. This post won't necessarily be about that version of Boys Don't Cry, although I enjoyed the title (and the film!) so I swiped it here.

Rather, this is about how that central tenet -- boys do not cry -- influences a lot of what happens in first-world, whit…