Does Anyone "Deserve" To Be A Parent?

This is a more complicated question than we often realize.

Just for context upfront here, I’ve currently spent about $31,000 trying to be a dad, and I’m rolling zeroes on all that. It’s hard, and obviously days purporting to “celebrate” mothers and fathers can be triggering, even if I’m happy for 99.3% of people who get to climb that particular life mountain. Would I be lying if I didn’t admit it all causes som…