Getting Piped Tonight?

It might actually save your sense of self and social dynamics.

If I had to group my generalized content into “themes,” I would say some of the bigger ones are:

• Relationships

• Masculinity

• Connection

• Loneliness

Obviously I write a lot about work too, but those four bullets overlap with how we process and perceive work too — a lot of awful middle managers, both male and female variety, are that way because other relationships or connections in their life are suffering, and thus they turn “work” into “family,” or more accurately “work” into “fiefdom,” and everyone below them suffers. It’s a brutal circle.

As these are interests of mine, I’ve written about these topics a couple of times (couple dozen, in some cases):

• Can adults be more open about sex?

• Can we ever “fix” loneliness?

• How many times a week “should” couples have sex?

Within that last article is this quote:

No wonder they miss sex when it disappears. It’s a way for them to be aggressive and manly but also tender and vulnerable. “For some men, sex may be their primary way of communicating and expressing intimacy,” says Justin Lehmiller, a Harvard University social psychologist who studies sexuality. Taking away sex “takes away their primary emotional outlet.”