Men Want Servants, Not Partners

Not ALL men, no. But this is a common narrative that we ignore like crazy.

Alright, let me open here with an anecdote. I’ll set the scene for you.

On Saturday afternoon, in about 97-degree heat, my wife and I biked about 13 miles one way to go to some BBQ + bar place. I had drank too much on Friday, so I wasn’t drinking, but we had some BBQ and watched some soccer, then had to bike back 13 miles in 97-degree heat. If you’ve ever biked 13 miles after eating pounds of BBQ, it’s not good or easy. I was a mess when I got back. Anyway.

While there, I see this couple, or I presume they’re a couple. The guy is tall and lanky and seems maybe 25. He’s wearing a meme shirt, if that helps. The woman is Asian, probably same age, and much shorter than the guy. The woman seems to adore this guy to the point of worship, which is heartwarming at some level to see — I mean touching him, tugging him, going and getting him drinks and paper plates and napkins. It remained pretty nice and heartwarming while we were there.

As I was biking back, I started thinking about this convo that I had with a friend of mine’s fiancee (they never got married; wedding got called off) about 12 years ago in New Orleans. My friend was not Asian, and his current wife is not Asian, but he was telling me at a bar: “I love Asian chicks. They’re so subservient and meek, ya know?”

At the time back in New Orleans, I had no clue how to process this, so I just nodded. I am pretty sure that is why Asian female porn is so popular among men (and we know it is from data).

So now I’m thinking about this BBQ interaction a little differently. Was it sweet and endearing, or a sign of something darker?

I asked 10 women and eight told me: “Yea, that guy wanted a servant, not a girlfriend.”

Look, none of us know because we’re not those two people. We could all be wrong. But then I started thinking about this more.

“Work Wife”