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Let's briefly discourse on what exactly makes a "high-value" man.

There has been a lot of discourse among the chronically-online of late about what a “high-value man” is. The discussion cross-cuts lots of other things, notably the perils of online dating, how hard it is for a certain class of man to meet women (and thus the fostering of incel culture), the sheer nature of being chronically-online, the fact that young men and women are headed in entirely different ideological directions, etc. There is a lot to unpack with it. I don’t think we can do that in a single post here, but we can try to skirt the edges of what it supposedly means.

I think first, you need to understand that men and women are not a monolith. Most women want something different in a man from even their sister or best friend — women have types and narratives about their life, and they look for men (assuming they are heterosexual) to fit those narratives. If you did a pie chart of what “high-value man” means, I think you’d take it literally and the biggest color slice would be:

• “Makes a lot of money.”

In theory and semantics, that would be a “high-value man.” Money is value. It shouldn’t necessarily be the primary value, but it’s definitely value.

What would be the second-biggest pie slice on a theoretical pie chart here? Probably something about “good father” or “husband energy.” If you are talking to a woman who is already married and has grown kids, the answer would be different, but we will get to that in a second.