'You don't understand' is the worst-ever way to begin a sentence

Stop removing people's agency.

I got drunk with one of my friends a few months ago; I was in his town on a business trip, and we just met up and grabbed some beers/burgers. Very basic American male-bonding type stuff. One element of note is that we've both gotten married in the past 30 months or so, so one topic that came up was father-in-laws. Both of us love our father-in-laws, but…