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It's worth asking: why are men like this? And perhaps more to the point: why do women deal with this and joke about it?

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Ted Bauer
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I got the above chart from here.

There are some other nuggets in there, including this one:

This gender difference extends to working parents as well. Four in ten working mothers (39%) must take time off and stay home when their children are sick, over ten times the share of men (3%). Fathers also agree that moms are the leaders of children’s health care needs, though a substantial share of both mothers and fathers say they share responsibility for these tasks.

I’ve been married twice now. I don’t really think I’ve been a good husband either time, although my definition of “good husband” and your definition of the term might be different. Actually, that is kinda one major problem we have.

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I don’t think most people have a full understanding of what it means to be a “good husband,” “good wife,” “good mother,” “good father,” and maybe it kinda is like the Supreme Court and pornography: you know it when you see it. I myself have grappled with these questions for many years.

SO like, what are husbands these days? And why are women putting up with this drivel?

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