The Problem Of Constant Masculine Competition

While some might say "iron sharpens iron," is this also a problem in terms of male anxiety?

In the aggregate, do I think the quote in the title is true? Yea, probably. I think a lot of guys I know do tend to view the world through a scarcity lens, instead of an inclusion lens, and thus they turn a lot of things into competition. Work is the most notable example, but even house size, car size, neighborhood involvement, etc. Sadly, a lot of men don’t compete on giving away money. Some do.

Here's a decent article from MSNBC on male competition.

There have been about 912,871 articles since 2015 about masculinity, the decline of men, male loneliness, male connectivity, males not being able to say “I love you,” and how men not having good friends has caused women to bear the burden. I have written about 30 of these articles. I think that’s maybe .00001 percent. I’m not “the voice,” but I’ve chased a lot of research, takes, videos, articles, and conversations about all this. Here is one, for example, that I wrote on Medium .

Here’s generally where I would come down on some of this stuff: