What About Those Who Won't Forgive?

Adulthood has more of these types than we admit.

Like any good little functional alcoholic, I have decimated many a friendship in my day over completely worthless drivel. Most of these come back around in some way, but not all do. There’s actually a very specific subset of people who absolutely will not accept apologies, and will hold a grudge until the absolute end of time. I actually felt like one of those people in probably 2007 and then again in 2017, but now when and if people “wrong” me — which doesn’t happen that much all-in anyway — I try to be pissy for a second (read: two weeks max) and then try to re-engage with them. It often works, but periodically does not.

I think about the idea of “forgiveness” and “redemption” often:

• Who is “deserving of redemption?”

• The forgiveness — of loans

Let me give you one story about lack of apology-accepting. Maybe two.