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Woe Is Me Baby Boomer Bullshit

Yes, it would be lovely if they had more grandkids. But could we acknowledge all the other things swirling around that issue?

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Ted Bauer
Mar 15, 2025
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Just to get this out of the way upfront, my wife and I “experience” (I think that’s the right term) infertility, and have done IVF twice, which means we’ve spent about $32,000 trying to have a kid, and nope. One of the things that happens when you deal with infertility is you start thinking about people you’ve “let down,” and usually chief on that list is your own parents and in-laws, because, sure, they wanted the experience of being a grandparent. It’s a great joy for many. Now, I do think the quiet part out loud on being grandparents is that people want a redo of raising kids without having to deal with them all the time, but hey, at least we can be honest about it.

So, the New York Times ran that article a few days ago. You can Google it and find it. There was some Internet explosion about it, usually in two camps:

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  • Camp 1, which is “pro-family” and usually people smarting from Trump wrecking Kamala, said “This is so true” and “Why are we selfishly robbing these Boomers of their joy?”

  • Camp 2, which is more Gen Z-y, said, “Hey, I can’t afford a house” and/or “Kids are incredibly expensive and only getting moreso,” with a little bit of “The Boomers pulled the success ladder up behind them.”

As for the house thing, which is largely true (I did not own a home until I was 39.9 years of age), look at this:

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