As one of those childless women who is frequently the target of bile about what a selfish/lazy/overly-ambitious/narcissistic/lonely/loser/whore/frigid/choose-whatever-insult-you want-by-men-mad-I-didn't-have-any-babies bitch I am, I'm not going to argue with you here.
But I'd point out that 1. Pregnant women and new moms did not always act like this...it seems like a new thing from the social media era, 2. Not all of them act like this, and 3. I don't think even most of them do. But yes, some of them do. And are seemingly some of the most self-centered people possible, though they won't see it that way because the baby isn't them, even though it kind of is.
I think likely these are women who have ALWAYS been attention and power loving women who enjoy bossing people around. They just finally got the perfect excuse to let those impulses run wild at full bore. The self-designated Devoted Dad Of the Year types do the same thing, they just usually wait til the kid is a toddler and can tell him how great he is. They're just people who finally have the perfect excuse to let their ego flag fly, in a socially acceptable (somewhat) way. It's not the parenthood. If they could get away with ordering people around and demanding that everyone defer to and admire them for other reasons, they'd do that too.
Birthing a child is but one star in the constellation of those difficult personal experiences that exposes to the world someone’s true character.
A person who acts selfishly in ways writ large also acts that way in the small daily interactions of life (e.g. jumping straight back into social media).
Behavior you describe should not be excused as a bout of temporary insanity. That is a person worth avoiding 100% of the time. I kind of pity the man who put her in the family way.
As one of those childless women who is frequently the target of bile about what a selfish/lazy/overly-ambitious/narcissistic/lonely/loser/whore/frigid/choose-whatever-insult-you want-by-men-mad-I-didn't-have-any-babies bitch I am, I'm not going to argue with you here.
But I'd point out that 1. Pregnant women and new moms did not always act like this...it seems like a new thing from the social media era, 2. Not all of them act like this, and 3. I don't think even most of them do. But yes, some of them do. And are seemingly some of the most self-centered people possible, though they won't see it that way because the baby isn't them, even though it kind of is.
I think likely these are women who have ALWAYS been attention and power loving women who enjoy bossing people around. They just finally got the perfect excuse to let those impulses run wild at full bore. The self-designated Devoted Dad Of the Year types do the same thing, they just usually wait til the kid is a toddler and can tell him how great he is. They're just people who finally have the perfect excuse to let their ego flag fly, in a socially acceptable (somewhat) way. It's not the parenthood. If they could get away with ordering people around and demanding that everyone defer to and admire them for other reasons, they'd do that too.
Birthing a child is but one star in the constellation of those difficult personal experiences that exposes to the world someone’s true character.
A person who acts selfishly in ways writ large also acts that way in the small daily interactions of life (e.g. jumping straight back into social media).
Behavior you describe should not be excused as a bout of temporary insanity. That is a person worth avoiding 100% of the time. I kind of pity the man who put her in the family way.